To believe or not to believe.

Belief seems like a topic that's very talked about. I'm not talking in the sense of religious beliefs, no, I'm not talking about that in this post. I mean to say something else, the belief I talk about is more general, just saying. 

Sadly, it looks like disappointing is inside all of us and nobody believes. What a shame, don't you think so? Believing is too beautiful to lose that. 

You hear people talking about many differnt topics and you hear them say how: "I don't believe in this". I don't believe in politics, I don't believe in love, I don't believe in friendship... "I believe in nothing" seems like the slogan for this century briefly, doesn't it? 

I like to believe though. 

And I'll be disappointed because of that sometimes, I'm not denying that. But I'll also be surprised in a positive way. Something as positive as believing can't be that bad, right? It is true that it's necessary to be realistic, you can't delude yourself and believe in things which are impossible to occur, or have very high hopes in very complicated things... but to believe takes us one step closer to be able to. 

Believing that things can change (if you do something about it, obviously), believing that you can get whatever you want to (if you fight for it), believing that things don't have to be as bad as they make us see them...

Believing takes us to progress, to the change of things, to hope. Obviously believing alone won't do anything. However, believing is the first step to take. 

Not believing takes us to disappointing, loss of hope, not fighting... not believing is the first step that makes us to give up. 

I decide to believe, and you? 

Merry Christmas!

Today's Christmas Eve, so, let's talk about Christmas! 

For many people, Christmas is an amazing time of the year when they spend time with their family and have an amazing time, which is great! Spending time with your loved ones just having dinner or lunch and chilling is pretty cool. I personally love that side of Christmas and I find it awesome! 

However, things aren't that way for everyone, and there are many people who don't see Christmas that way, and who don't exactly have a great time. Whether it's because their family situation isn't estable or it causes them anxiety or basically any kind of discomfort. 

That's what I'm here to talk about. I want to tell to everyone that is affected that way that you're not alone. If these events cause you stress, let me tell you that you're not alone and, in case you need it, there are many resources of help, and also there are many pages and videos with tips to face the situations the best you can! Also, you have my complete support (and many other people's) in case you need it as well. 

You don't have to worry, everything will be okay. 

I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and a good time, much love xx

Revenge.

I always talk here from a positive side of things, trying to transmit positive vibes, that's what I want and I hope that it works as I want it to work. However, feelings aren't always positive, and there are many negative feelings that should be talked about. Life itself isn't all rainbows and good things happening, it's all different than that. 

Today, the negative feeling I want to talk about is revenge. 

When someone hurts you really bad, there are many feelings you experience. You might feel guilty, you might feel ashamed, you might feel abandoned... you can also feel the need of getting revenge. It's something that happens usually to the victims of any kind of abuse, or basically anyone who's been hurt by other person. When you've been hurt for so long and the emotional (or physical) damage that's been caused to you has affect you, there have been consequences for you, there are some moments when you want revenge. 

The victim wants the person who's hurt them to know what they've done, you want the person who's hurt you to realize what they've actually done, how they've actually made you feel like, the range of their actions.

I've had those moments when I had been hurt so badly by someone and I did think of getting revenge. I wanted the person who had hurt me to realize what they had done to me, how it had affected me, basically what they'd done. Nevertheless, I never did those things I thought about, I never got revenge. 

I'm not in favor of revenge, I'm not saying it's the solution to anything because it's not. What I really want to say that it's okay to feel that, that you're not a bad person for thinking that you want the person who's hurt you to go through the same they made you go through, it's natural. 

Nonetheless, I don't think that getting revenge will help solve anything. It won't make you feel better, it won't solve your problems, it won't help you get through the emotional effects of whatever they've done to you. Sometimes it might be the first thing that comes to your mind when you remember everything you've gone through or whatever, but I want you to think through this: what will I solve by getting revenge? Will it make things better? 

The answer is, you won't solve anything, you won't make things better by doing that. You've been hurt and it's unfair - but you're so much better than revenge. 

Different resoures of help.

It's completely okay to ask for help, whether it is to a family member, a friend, a teacher... whoever you can trust and will be willing to listen or help. However, each person's situation is different, and for many reasons, there might be people who can't get help that way. Don't freak out, don't panic, because you can still get help. 

No matter what you're going through, you deserve to get help if you want to get help, if you need to get help. We all need help sometimes, that doesn't make us weak or attention seekers - that makes us humans. 

There are some things that we can get through by ourselves, nonetheless, other things, we can't overcome them alone. If you can get help by someone you can talk to face-to-face, it's the best option, without a doubt. Nevertheless, as I said, each person's situation is different, and you might not have the means to get that kind of help. How can you get help then? 

Firstly, one of the means of help that I find useful myself are self-help books. You don't need to pay any money, since in public libraries you can find some very useful books of many different topics that you might need help in. 

Also, the internet can be a great place to get help, if you know where to search. Samaritans, 7 Cups Of Tea, have at your disposition trained volunteers who are willing to listen. Those are only two examples, but there are many pages more who can offer you that kind of help.

If we continue on the Internet, I recommend you to check out Kati Morton's YouTube channel. She's a therapist who talks about many different mental health related topics and gives advice in many topics, you can even ask her in the #Q&As about any other topic you might need help in! (Some videos are subtitled in different languages)

And, to finish with, you can also get help by calling a hotline. I'll leave here some hotlines worldwide in case you need it. 

Potential?

People talk about potential, about talent, all the time. They say that certain people have an innate talent, that they have the potential to do great things. I won't deny that, because it is true that some people are born with the talent to do certain things - however, talent and potential themselves alone will do nothing. 

It is true that, if you want to do a certain thing in life, and you have the talent to do it, it will all be easier. That's true. Nevertheless, why do you want talent if you're not going to take advantage of it? Of course it will be easier for you if you have potential than if you don't, but, who cares? 

What you really need isn't talent, or potential... what you need is determination. That is what you actually need, you need to be determined to do whatever you want to. Attitude is what you need. You need to tell yourself: "I can do this", and fight to get it, you need to do what it takes to make your dreams true. 

Staying still and watching everyone work to get their dreams isn't the answer, it's not what you have to do. You see it's hard? Well, it isn't going to be easy, but you still need to be determined if that's what you want. There's no other way to make your dreams true, to become who you want to become.

Determination will help you find the way, it will help you lead it. If you have talent, take advantage of it and work, work as hard as it takes. Nonetheless, don't think that talent itself will do everything is, because, truth be told - it won't. 

"You're important to me"

Sometimes, it feels like we actually need to do a lot to help someone, that it takes so much to "save a life" or whatever you want to call it. I don't think so. I think that making a difference doesn't always take that much. 

"You know I'm here to listen if you need it, right" 

"You're important to me" 

"Thank you for being in my life" 

"I care about you" 

"You're worth it"

"You deserve getting help"

Sometimes, those words that might seem just like that, aren't just words. They mean more than that to some people. Those words can be the difference between a bad day and a good day, between crying themselves to sleep or going to sleep with a tiny smile, between giving up or holding on a little bit longer... 

No, saying that you care about someone won't fix all their problems all of a sudden, it won't, do you know what will change? They will know someone out there cares, they will know that they mean something to you, they will know that even though they feel alone, they're not that alone. 

You'll never know the difference those words can make until you're having a terrible day when everything goes wrong and someone says: "hey, you're important to me". Maybe you haven't even told them you're having a bad day, but they just say it and you're like: you said what I just needed to hear. That has happened to me and it makes a huge difference, more than words can even express. 

And I try to do the same often, you know? I like to tell people I care about them, because, you can never know if someone is hurting or not - and telling someone you care about them is something which is always welcome. 

A perfect life.

I don't quite know why, but it seems like everyone's looking for a perfecf life. It's like the ultimate goal for many people. I don't think it's right or wrong to search for it, since, after all, happiness is what we all want, don't we? 

There's a misconception though. It looks like we need our lives to be perfect in order to be happy. I don't want to break your plans or anything like that. However, you'd do yourself a favor if you didn't spend most of your time searching for something you won't find. Why? Because life's not meant to be perfect. Life won't be perfect. A perfect life isn't what will bring you happiness. Such thing doesn't exist. 

Nobody's life is perfect, even though many people actually think so. They think that only because someone doesn't complain about their problem, that means they don't have problems. They think that because someone smiles bright they're happy, when they might be broken inside. We all go through hard stuff, we all suffer. We all have scars - whether they're visible or not. 

Then, why should we waste our time searching for something we won't find? Isn't it better to try to make what we already have seem perfect? We could try to make our imperfect lives feel perfect. Or, maybe they don't have to feel like they were perfect, maybe we only need to enjoy the imperfections of life. Would rainbows exist if rain didn't exist? No. Would happiness exist if there weren't bad moments? No. 

Maybe we should focus on something different than searching for a perfect life. Maybe the answer is to find small perfections inside the imperfections of life. 

To the bullied ones...

This post goes to everyone who's being bullied, who was bullied, or who will be bullied. This goes to everyone who's been ridiculized, made fun of, who has had to put up with nasty things said to them, even when it was unfair. 

You know what? Those people giving you a hard time, they're no better than you. Behind those faces and insults they say to you, they're just insecure. You think they're superior? They're not. They're just a bunch of people saying things which aren't even true - and which shouldn't matter to you. 

Nonetheless, just saying that you shouldn't care about them doesn't change a thing, does it? Yes, I know right. What I'm saying are only a few words published in some random blog that you've visited for a reason I don't know. But, hey, after all they're the same thing - words. What they said are words, and what I'm saying are words. But, they have told you all those things for so long you've started to believe it. Maybe you didn't at first - but if they tell you something a hundred times, you end up believing it. I get it, it's normal. 

Their words have cut your skin like razor blades, the wounds don't seem to heal, and scars don't seem to fade. You can't forget the things they said, even if they said them years ago, you still remember their words, how much it hurt, and how much it still hurts. You're scarred inside. 

Maybe you're scared of going to high school, because you're scared of them. Maybe you're even scared of catching your own mobile phone, because of the messages. Maybe you're scared of going outside, because you think you might bump into them. You're scared of trusting people, of meeting new people, because you're afraid they'll do the same. You're scared of the world... you're scared of everything. 

Maybe - I hope not - the bullying is so bad that you can't stand it anymore, it hurts so bad that you just want it to end. You just want them to leave you alone, but they don't. And it's coming to a point where you can't stand it. 

I want to tell you that those people, they're not right. You're not worthless, or a failure, or whatever they said or made you feel like you are. I want you to know that this, it won't last forever. When you leave high school, those people, they won't matter, maybe you won't even see them again. Are you going to let them win? You can't. You can't give up. 

Believe me, I know what you're going through. I've been there. And I swear to you that you're much better than all of this, you can get through it. You can't let them win, okay? I know it's so damn hard and that it's awful, I know - but not even all that you're going through will last forever, you need to keep up the fight. 

However, you don't have to go through this alone. You can search for help, whether it's from your family, a friend, a counselor, or whoever is willing to help. Even on the internet, there are multiple support pages filled with people willing to listen. 

I am here for you as well, so if you need someone to talk to or whatever you can contact me - I'll always answer ASAP. 

Heroes.

Somehow, we all search for a hero, at least sometimes we do. Whenever things turn differently than what we expected, or whenever everything seems to go wrong, we search for something, or someone to turn to. We want a hero, to save us, to rescue us.

What we really search for isn't a hero like the ones we see in films - at the end of the day, we all know those superheroes from films don't exist. We search for ordinary heroes that can help us get through whatever we're going through. That person becomes our escape, our shelter, our protection from whatever we're running from. If we see it like that, it sounds pretty cool, it sounds like the best option. 

That has a side effect though. When you "find" that hero you've been looking for, you start depending on that person. That way, if that person leaves, you're done, and you're left out in worse conditions than you were before. In addition, let's not forget the fact that, nothing lasts forever - therefore, that hero will end up leaving, whether it's their choice to leave or not. 

What's the thing to do then? What can we do when things go all wrong and we do need a hero? 

I can't go ahead and tell you not to search for a hero, because I know we all sometimes need a hero. The issue is that we search for a hero in the wrong sources. I'm not saying it's bad to turn to someone else when things are hard, don't give me to wrong. It's completely okay to do that sometimes, and you should do that if you have people you trust and willing to help. 

Nevertheless, that's not the point here. You can't depend on someone for the rest of your life, can you? 

Now, I would like you to think about this: if it's okay to need a hero, but you can't depend of someone who will end up leaving, what can you do? I think it's quite easy, don't you think so? 

That hero you've been searching for is the person you see when you look in the mirror. That's the only person that will stick to you for the rest of your life, for good and for bad. So, what's best than becoming your own hero? You're that hero you've been searching for. You just have to find a way to become that hero. 

We all idolize heroes when we watch them in a film, but, when it comes to real life, it's like we find it hard to become a hero. However, we can be a hero - our own hero. You don't need any hero but yourself, so go for it. 

Suicide Prevention Day

Hey there! 

As you probably know, today it's the suicide prevention day. And I've got many things to say about this topic so there we go.

There's not a fantastic magical book in how to stop suicide, in how to help someone who wants to end their own life. I can assure you that. And, that sucks. Each person is different and so is the way to help them. Let me tell you something - you cannot save the world, even if you wanted to. 

What I mean with that is that, yeah, you can't save everyone, but you can try to help as much people as you can. When we talk about stopping someone's suicide we all just imagine someone standing in a bridge about to jump or something like that, but, that's not everything. There are situations that lead to that and we can give a hand to someone before that happens. 

To know if someone's hurting to the point they want to end their lives is almost impossible, it's not something you just tell when you look at someone. However, making someone smile doesn't cost that much, does it? Helping people can be as easy as a compliment, or telling someone that you're there for them whenever they need it, or tell them you're willing to listen. Sometimes, all that someone needs is to talk to someone.

That's just my advice though.

Also, if you're hurting, don't be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help doesn't make you a coward or that you're weak - actually it takes a lot of courage to ask for it. I promise you that there are people out there who are willing to listen, who want to help you, whether they're close to you or even strangers. The point is that out there there's a lot of people who care about you, even though you probably haven't realized. 

No matter how bad it gets, there's always hope. If you can't see it, let someone show you the way, because there is a way. Stay strong, we care about you, you're loved. 

I've said it a million times, but I'll say it again. Even though I'm not a therapist, I'm always willing to listen, so, if you want to talk and can't find anyone or whatever, you can contact me on twitter, tumblr, instagram, ask.fm... 

Besides that, I'm posting below the links to online resources for help or hotlines:

http://www.samaritans.org/

http://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/

http://psychcentral.com/helpme.htm

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Only a game of cards.

The other day I was just thinking about life, and something came to mind - poker. I don't play poker much, but I've played several times and I really like it. Okay, let's think about poker. Someone shuffles the cards, distributes cards to all the players, and they let the game begin. 

You don't get to choose what cards you get, it's all random. You can have good luck or bad luck in the first deck of cards you get, but that isn't what matters most. 

What matters the most is what you decide to do with the deck of cards you get in the first round, and what you keep getting. What makes you win or lose a game are your choices. Sometimes you'll decide not to risk anything and it'll be the good move. Other times, you'll risk everything at one card, not knowing if you'll win or not. Maybe you win, maybe you lose. However, you have to make some sacrifices if you want to win. 

It's your choice how you decide to play. 

With experience, you'll get better. And, if you're smart enough, you'll realize that it all isn't about luck. Yeah, luck has a lot of might here, but there are people with very good luck who lose, and people with very bad luck that win. What do you say about that? 

Life's just like a game of cards. You can't choose what cards you get, but you do have the will to decide what you'll do with them. Your choices are what will make you success of fail in the end. 

School.

September's already here. 

Yeah, we all know what that means - school has already come back (for some) or is about to come. 

I'm sorry, I know most of teens hate to talk about this topic, but I'm going to talk about it. I hate to talk about it too, don't worry. However, I feel like there are some things I need to mention about it, you know, in order to give y'all some advice! 

School, or high school, or college... whatever you call it. Okay, let's not think about the studying and grades stuff for a moment, because that's not what I want to focus on. I want to focus on how to deal with school. 

A lot of people might find this post useless, the might probably not need this. Nevertheless, other might need it. 

School can be hard to deal with, and a lot of kids/teens are even afraid of going to school. Whether it's because someone's giving you a hard time or you feel like you're going to be judged, there can be many reasons why someone's afraid of going to school. It's a shame that it's even common sometimes, because nobody should ever feel afraid of going to school. Actually, if you're feeling afraid of going to school, I wanted to tell you that, I feel you. I'm not going to talk about myself here, however, I wanted you to know that I understand what you're feeling. 

The best thing you can do is try and lose that fear. 

Yeah, I know that it's pretty easy to just say it, that it's harder to do it. Fear is what's stopping you from many things, and that's what you need to get rid of. I'm not saying your fear is irrational, I'm saying that fear's stopping you from more things than you know. And it's in your hands to fight that fear. Forget about what they'll say. 

I cannot go and tell you people are going to judge you, because I'm no liar, and I want to be honest. So, yes, people will probably judge you. People always judge, always. 

I remember that once I read a quote written by a guy called Aitor Alvarez, which said: 

"Survival adice - do it, you're going to get critiziced anyway"

And, it's true. 

What I want to say with this is that, just be yourself. Be yourself and don't give a damn what they say or what they think. Stay true to yourself and don't let fear stop you from anything. 

Your attitude toward certain situations can really make the difference, and it's more than you think. 

So, when you wake up in the morning to go to school, try to concienciate yourself that what others think doesn't matter. You're going to do good. Just trust in yourself and aspire to do great things in your life. Because, you can do it. 

And, some people messing up with you or whatever can't be the reason that stops you from that. Do your thing and remember - you won't see them again when you get out of school probably, so, why letting their (negative) opinions matter?

The future.

Some people don't like to talk about their future. It's a topic they just don't like, they change the subject when someone brings it up. It's like they're scared of it or something. Well, I get it and respect it. Sometimes, the future can seem really scary. I think that most of the times, it does look scary. Future can mean uncertainty if you think about it deeply, because whatever your plans, you'll never know what tomorrow will bring to you, how things will be in the future, and how you'll react to occurrences in the future. 

However, I prefer to think about other way.

Sometimes, when I'm lying in bed at night and thinking, I start "making" plans for my future. I start imagining the future that I wish, in which some things that I find amazing do happen. Only thinking of that draws a smile on my face, and, guess what? That motivates me. It motivates me to make my dreams true. The simple thought of me in college studying what I want and living my life the way I've always wanted to live it is one of the brightest flames in my heart. 

I have no clue about the future. Nevertheless, having a goal to achieve makes me think of the future as something that could be awesome if I fight for it, if I put effort to it. Thinking of the future even makes me happy very often since it's what I fight for every day. 

I really think that if we think of the future as the time when we could be able to make our dreams true, or reach our goals, people wouldn't try to avoid it so much. There are people who like to talk about their goals, and what they plan to do - I'm one of those people. 

The future can be whatever it be. But, we can dream and fight for something we want, can't we? It's in your hands. 

Anons.

This is the Internet, and here, each person decides whether they want to show their true identity or to remain as an anon. 

Personally, I'm a person who has remained as an anon for about a year maybe in my twitter account. I wouldn't show pictures of me, and stuff like that. It was my personal decision because I didn't want people to know who I was. It's not like I had anything to hide or whatever, it was just my decision. I found it more comfortable to give advice to people and try to help them without sharing my identity. 

And I am aware that many people prefer that, and, of course I respect it. It's totally understandable and there's nothing wrong with that choice, as long as you don't lie about who you are either, of course. 

However, the point here is not about that. I wanted to give a message to everyone. 

If you want to remain as an anon, cool. But, can you do me a favor? Well, it's not a favor only to me, I think it's more like a favor to a lot of people. If you're going to spread hate, why don't you think it through and turn it all around? How? Instead of hate, you could spread some love. Someone out there might need it, and, guess what? You'll feel better with yourself, and maybe, you realize that love will always be better than hate. 

Want to try? 

Our dark side.

Today, I stopped to think about the dark sides of people. Everyone has a dark side, am I right? 

It's like the part of us that we try and hide from the whole world, the part of us we wish we could forget and bury in the ground. But, that part is still there, inside of you, and you can't let go of it. It remains there. 

I remember a quote by J.K. Rowling, writter of the Harry Potter saga in which a character said something pretty wise, and about this topic. This was the quote: 

"Besides, the world isn't split into good people and Death Eaters. We've all got both light and dark inside us. What matters it the part we choose to act on. That's who we really are."

The message is not only clear, but true. We all have a dark side, darkness inside of us. And we have a bright side (let's call it that way), light inside of us. The darkness inside of you can only define you if you let it become who you are. As J.K. Rowling said, what matters is the part we choose to act on - using different words, what matters is the part that becomes relevant, the one that "wins". 

At the end of the day, we all know which our dark side is, and it's up to us decide whether we want that part to become us or not. After all, our choices are what define us. 

We can't choose not to have a dark side, because everyone has one and you can't help that. Nobody's perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. But you can choose what part of you wins, and what part will end up to define you as a person. 

The darkness always has some light, and the light always has some darkness. I guess that's a part of being human. Just, remember that. 

I hope y'all are having a good Saturday/Sunday ^-^

This is your life to live.

You have this life, and you only have one. It's your own choice whatever you decide to do with it, and, even though people can influence you, after all, it's your life and choices. Any person can come to you and tell you who you should be, what you're supposed to do or be, they can tell you many things: good and bad ones. They can whether have an impact in you or not to have it at all. If it's a positive one, amazing. If it's a negative one, try to learn something out of it. 

What I'm trying to say is that you're the owner of your life, no matter what.

I've been told by many people who I'm supposed to be, what I should do and which path I should follow for the rest of my life. I only have two words as an answer: fuck that. I'm sorry if that sounds rude, it's not my intention. Nevertheless, I want to make my message really clear. I've been given many good advice, thankfully, and I "studied" them carefully, I paid attention and followed some of those which I felt like I should follow. It was my decision though. I made the decision. But I've also been given bad advice, which I used to follow and sometimes follow by mistake. As the human I am, I make mistakes. 

Months from now, maybe, I would have done what I'm supposed to, but, I've changed as a person. I've made up a list in my mind of my preferences, of what I truly want in life. And that's the path I'm going to follow, no matter how hard it can become, I don't mind.

I sat down and realized I couldn't keep just thinking of other people before myself, specially when it was about my future, my own life. If I do what others want me to do, will I be happy? No. I need to do whatever makes me happy, because it's my life. 

I'm not saying all this just to talk about my life, actually, I don't like that. I just want you to see that that's what you should do. You need to think what you really want to do, who you want to be, without thinking if other people will like it or not, or if they'll approve it. That's not how things should be. 

This is your life to live. As long as you're respectulf to others and to yourself, what else matters? 

You shouldn't let the world tell you who you have to be, you know, you should embrace who you are and realize what's best for you. What do you prefer, to live as yourself, or to live as someone else? It's your choice. 

The sunrise.

Sometimes, we go through a really long night, which is so long that we end up believing that the sunrise will never come. In life, there are many moments like those, when it's all so dark for too long and we end up believing that light will never come back - that it all will stay dark forever. 

However, that isn't true. The sunrise always comes after the darkness, but sometimes it takes a while to appear, you just have to keep fighting until you see it, because in the moment you see it you'll realize you made it to see another day. You made it. 

Fighters.

There are many kinds of fighters. I'm not going to stop and mention every kind of fighter that you'll be able to find, because that's not the purpose of this post. 

There's something that all fighters have in common. There's something that could be used for a "clasification" of fighters in which all kind of fighters fit in. Do you know what I'm talking about? Think through about it, think deeply. What is that that all fighters have in common? 

All fighters fall down; they've fallen down a lot of times before, and they'll fall down plenty of times more. All fighters stumble down, want to give up sometimes, break, feel worthless... those adjectives kind of describe way too many people (if not everyone), so, what differences some people between one another  so some of them are fighters and others aren't?

Even though I honestly believe that every single person is a fighter in their own way, it'd be good to keep clear what a fighter is. 

The thing about fighters is that they get back up again, they keep up the fight even though it feels like it's impossible to win the fight. They don't give up even though some times they really want to. They continue fighting even though it looks like the fight isn't worth fighting anymore. 

You're already a fighter, because you're here. Do you want to continue being one? Do you want to keep fighting no matter how hard it gets? The harder the run is, the better the prize will be. It's your choice - but any choice that means keeping up the fight and not giving up is the right one. 

Ends... beginnings.

Things end, and we cannot do anything to help that. I don't like endings - like most of people, we don't like them, right? 

Sometimes it's very sad when somethings comes to an end. 

With life, a lot of times something like that happens. We believe that it's the end, like everything has come to its end. We feel lost, abandoned, hopeless... we feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Have you ever felt like that? 

In those moments, we have a misconception of the "moment", maybe it's that our feelings of hopelessness invade us and we feel like there's no escape - it's the end. 

Well, it's not. Actually, in those moments, there's a new beginning. There's a new beginning waiting, waiting to come. You have to wait until it comes, without speeding up. Sometimes, it takes longer; other times, shorter. However, you cannot forget that the new beginning will come - and you have to be there to see it. 

Progress.

Nowadays, there's a "trend" of being better than the fellow. We want to have a better car, a better house, a better mobile phone... better achievements than the other person, whoever they are and whatever they're our achievements. 

I'm going to start to explain this with a little example. Imagine you got a 90% in you Science test, and other classmate of yours got a 95%. Instead of being proud of yourself for having such a high mark, you're not going to realize that and you won't be proud of your own achievement because you're comparing yourself with the other person. And you won't be satisfied until you get a better mark than your classmate. However, when you reach that mark, you won't try to get a better one, because you've got what you wanted - being better than your fellow.

What I want to communicate you with this example is that, to me, comparing yourself to others isn't the best or right thing to do. 

Comparing yourself to others will only fill you with hatred, envy and arrogance. As soon as you're better than a certain person you've decided to be better than - if you ever reach that goal, of course. 

When it comes to progress, there's something else I do for myself, and I recommend you to try it because with me it has worked. Even though sometimes it's necessary to compare yourself to others in some ways so you can learn more things, and it's even more necessary to pay to other people's attention and critics (if they're constructive), there's something else which is better.

What I do instead is comparing me with myself. I compare my previous achievements and according to that I build my goal, what I want to reach. I only propose myself to get what I'm capable of getting. 

I think that it's the best way of improving, because you see how much you've improved and you're realistic. You work harder and harder and you'll see real progress. I really believe that that's what progress is all about. It's about becoming a better person and improving - taking steps forward and move forward. 

What we can stand.

We can stand so much, sometimes, we even stand more than we thought we could. Why? Maybe we think it's fair to stand it. Maybe we think that's what we're supposed to do. Maybe we think that it's not a big deal, that we're just overreacting. Maybe we just think that if we stand so much, when it comes to us, other person will stand so much. Maybe we just think we could do better, we could be better. You want the truth? 

The truth is that, it's okay to stand some things. But, there has to be a moment when you realize you've had enough, that it's been enough and say: "enough". Are you going to let someone use you? Are you going to let them take you for granted? Are you going to let them say who you should be? Are you going to let them tell you what you're supposed to be? 

Don't give me to wrong, it's important to listen to other people's advice and all that stuff. However, there's a difference between listening to someone's advice and letting someone control your life. It's your life to make it how you want it to be, it's your future, it's you. Are you going to give someone so much importance that they can control you? 

The problem about standing so much is that it comes to a point when you think everything's okay, so you don't realize when you're being controlled by someone else. You don't realize when it's time to say enough. You don't realize when it's time to stop standing and let go. 

Never forget your value, never let yourself tell you you're not good enough, and more important than that, never let someone control you. 

You have to think of yourself first, then you can think of the world.

Pride Month

This post goes to the LGBT+ community. Since June is Pride Month, I felt like writing a post about it. 

The LGBT+ community has been receiving a lot of hate from many people worldwide since it even existed, and it continues that way. Homosexual, bisexual, transgender... people have always received hate from other people who've considered being different from them is wrong. That's what I want to talk about, but this won't be a sermon for homophobic, transphobic, biphobic... people. That's not what this post is supposed to be - so it won't  be like that. 

What I want to tell you is to embrace who you are no matter what. Some people say it's exaggerated to embrace in a public way if you're different, but the thing is that if you get hate for who you are, the way to fight back is embracing who you are and showing you're proud of who you are. 

Some people find it hard to accept who they truly are, whether they have a different sexual orientation than they're supposed to, or a different gender identity, or whatever makes you different than most of the people. I want to tell you that different doesn't mean wrong. I want to tell you that you deserve to be yourself without fear. It hurts to hide who you truly are or who you truly love, and that's not fair for you - whatever is holding you back from being yourself is what's wrong. 

You're heterosexual? Cool. You're homosexual? Cool. You're bisexual? Cool. You're pansexual? Cool. You're cisgender? Cool. You're transgender? Cool. You're gender fluid? Cool. None of that defines you as a person. 

It's said that there's barely LGBT+ phobia nowadays, but I know that isn't true. If that was true, there wouldn't be "closets". There wouldn't be people hiding themselves - everyone would feel safe to share their sexual orientation or gender identity, but that doesn't happen. 

People who judge you because of that are the people  you don't deserve having in your life. You deserve better people who accept you as you are, that's true. Nevertheless, I want to tell you that the most important thing is that you accept yourself as you are. 

I know what it's like not to accept who you truly are because of fear, because you don't want to be different, you don't want to be hated. I can assure you I know what it's like. However, I can also tell you that once you accept yourself, everything becomes a little better. Your own acceptance is what you need the most. 

Diversity and discrimination.

You'll never find two human beings who are completely the same. Never, no matter how hard you try, you won't. I can assure you that. 

There's diversity among us, we all are different somehow. Whether it's the color of our skin, our nationality, our preferences, our sexuality, our gender identity, our surroundings, our appearence... we are different from each other. And it's okay. As long as you're not causing damage to others by that, there's nothing wrong with it. 

The problem is that we tend not to respect that diverstity, we tend to think of diverstity as something which is wrong. Even though we say we don't think that or that we don't care about diversity, are you sure it is respected? I don't think so. 

I'll give you an example. Let's imagine a 10th grade classroom, with about 30 students. They're different from each other, but they act in a similar way, most of them. Nevertheless, let's suppose that there are like three students who are "different" or that's what they classmates do. One of those three students has a different sexuality than most of their classmates, openly. Other one is from another country, and the reaction of his/her classmates is the same as with the other kid. The third one doesn't like the same things as his/her classmates, has different hobbies, mentality and dresses differently.

The reaction of their classmates towards them is the same: the three teens are being teased, being made fun of, being left out... being bullied. Just because they're not like them. The three teens aren't causing any damage to the rest, but they're different. And that's what always happens, every day, everywhere. 

Is it right? No. People say that we've become more advanced, and we have, but not enough. There is still a lot of discrimination to many people, and it's unfair - this must change. 

Wouldn't you like to feel free to be yourself in public without hiding who you truly are? Wouldn't that be better for each one of us? What do you prefer: stopping hate and becoming acceptive, or living divided and hidden? 

It's owned by us, only we can change that.

Achievements.

Today I'd like to talk about achievements. 

Every day, every week, every month, and every year there will be people who will tell you that you can't achieve something. Lots of those times, they will be referring to things that you've always wanted to achieve, they'll talk about what for you might be your "dream". That kinda sucks, doesn't it? 

It's fucked up that every time a person comes up with a dream, something they want to do with their life, someone comes and starts telling you that there's not a chance you'll make it true, that no way you can make it true. Why do they say it? I don't know. 

Sometimes, their intentions are good - they just want you not to delude yourself. 

That's something normal from the people who care about you. Whether you're good or not doing what you want to have success in, having your hopes too high can end up with you being disappointed. That's a chance, I won't deny it. 

Nevertheless, there's other thing that might happen. Maybe the person who's telling you you can't achieve your dreams basically doesn't want you to reach your dreams. Why? There are a few possibilities. 

That person might be jealous for any reason, they might think you can make true something that they can't, they might see in you a talent that they wish they had... maybe they see you as a rival, or maybe they just don't want to see you success. Hate, jealousy, feeling like a failure themselves... those can be reasons why someone wants you not to success in something. 

However, none of those reasons should be a reason for you to be put down. You should keep fighting for your dreams. You should never give up that fight. As a song that I really like says: 

"Keep your hopes up high and your head down low"

You have to fight for what you want, but always being honest to the world and to yourself, and all that with modestly, never forget that.

Have a nice weekend guys!

Life's not perfect.

Life is not perfect. 

People tend to "paint" life as if it was perfect. It's like they want us to believe that life's all just butterflies and rainbows and everything's so perfect and we must love life no matter what, and so on. 

I think that the perception of life as perfect only makes things worse. 

"If life's perfect, then I'm just overreacting about my problems"

"If life's so beautiful, why am I feeling so bad? Am I just stupid?"

The perception of life as perfect can lead to thoughts like those one I wrote below. Is that even good? It's not, right? Life's not perfect. Life has its ups and downs, its pain, its sorrow, its bad moments and good ones. Who hasn't ever thought "life sucks"? I think that no one. I believe that we all kinda hate life itself sometimes. You don't have to feel like you're a bad person for thinking that, you don't have to feel bad for thinking that. 

Life does suck sometimes. 

But, that's life. And there's not a thing we can do to change that. That's what life's like, nevertheless, that's not bad at all. Maybe what we have to do is look at life with a different perspective. 

There will be days when you don't want to get out of bed, days when you'll feel completely hopeless, lost... but you'll get through those days. The person in order to do that is you. No one else - you. 

No one will do it for you, but it's worth it. Even though life can be very bad and unfair sometimes, it's worth living. Live like there's no tomorrow, but being ready for that tomorrow that could not come. And, pain is not that bad after all, remember that. It's okay to feel pain - we're human, we feel. 

Have a sweet night, guys <3

Bullying.

Hey guys!

Today I'm writing because I'm angry at the world. I'm angry at it completely, everyone included. I'm also including myself. Why am I angry at the world? 

Because we don't realize it when we're doing something wrong, and we just do it over and over. We make the same mistakes until it's too late to fix them. We all do. Other people make the same mistakes over and over, you make the same mistakes over and over, and I make the same mistakes over and over. Do we ever learn? It doesn't seem like it. 

I've decided to talk here about a certain kind of mistake, one which costs too many lives every year, every month, every week, and every day. 

Bullying. 

Yes, bullying. I bet that you've heart about it. I bet that you whether have been a victim of it, have witnessed it, or have been the bully. Am I right or wrong? I kind of feel like I'm right. 

Most people who witness bullying do nothing about it. Completely nothing. Is it right? Definitely not. 

"It's typical of kids", "it's no big deal", "come on, you're just over-reacting", "just ignore them"

Those are the typical things people say when someone complains about being bullied or someone being bullied. Do you really think that saying such things will fix the problem? 

Kids and teenagers are afraid of being who they want to be. They're afraid of loving who they want to love. They're afraid of sharing with the world their own thoughts.  They're afraid of being themselves. They're suffering from the pressure of being someone they don't want to be, of pretending to be what they're not. 

They're not expressing themselves because they're afraid of being rejected or bullying! 

We're all humans, we have the right of being who we want to be, doing what we want to do, loving who we want to love, being with who we want to be. Who has the right to take that away from us? Nobody. 

The truth is that bullying happens every day, everywhere. This needs to stop. We can't carry on like this. A change needs to be made. 

Kids and teenagers are getting depressed, they're self harming, they're being physically and verbally abused... lots of them end up killing themselves. Do you really think bullying isn't a serious problem? The consequences it may have are terrible, do you really think we don't have to do something about it?

Too many lives have been already lost. Too many people suffering and hurting. How much will it take for people to realize bullying needs to stop? 

I just wish that people realize it before it's too late. 

If you're a victim of bullying, stay strong, hold on. There are lots of people here for you, me included! If you're witnessing bullying, don't stand still, speak up, do something! If you're being a bully, don't you think it's time to be sympathetic and stop it? 

I hope y'all have a nice weekend, love y'all <3

"#Cut4Zayn"

Hello there everyone! I wasn't supposed to write a post today, because I didn't really know what to write it about. But, I was scrolling down twitter and I saw something that really pissed me off. I couldn't help but write about it. 

Some people would say that it's not a big deal and it's only a few people, but I don't care. It is a big deal to me, and since I'm in my right of sharing my thoughts as long as I respect people, I'll take it. 

When I came to twitter today, I saw some tweets with the hashtag "cut4zayn". This isn't the first time that there's a hashtag like that one - last time it was "cutforbieber", wasn't it? 

I'm not going to show hate towards those people, I'm against hate. You know the problem here? You're making fun of something which is definitely not funny at all. Self harm is a serious issue which, even though it's not a suicidal action in most people who do it, can lead to suicide. Besides all the physical harm it can cause to a person; behind self harm there's a lot of emotional pain. Is it funny? 

I don't know about those people who make fun of it, but let me tell you something: if you want to have a laugh, type on youtube 'comedians' or something like that, and you'll probably laugh. You don't need to do that, to make fun of something which isn't funny at all. 

Do you know that posting photos of fresh cuts can trigger people who're dealing with that issue? It can and it does.

On the other hand, please, imagine for a second. I don't even know what's happening, but I've read that you're doing it because Zayn Malik left One Direction. You're his fan, aren't you? Please, use empathy. How would it make you feel like if you had fans and they harmed themselves because of a personal decision you made? Exactly. 

Just, stop it, please. Hashtags like that one are the reason why people don't take issues like self harm seriously. 

Writing this, I searched the hashtag again, and do you know what I read? 

"The faster you cut your wrists, the faster Zayn comes back" 

What's wrong with you? Do you realize you're triggering other people? I know that the people who've harmed themselves for that reason are only a few, but stop spreading the word!

If you're sad about it, you can write that you're upset about it, but you don't need to do this. You're better than doing that to yourself, you don't deserve it. 

Cutting yourself because your idol left his band wont' solve anything. It'll only make you suffer more, and self harm is an issue that you don't want - I can assure you that. I'm dead serious. 

If you're having self harm issues, you should seek help. If you can't have face-to-face help at the moment, I'm leaving this link for you: https://self-injury.net/resources/hotlines. And, as I've said before, I can try to help you if you want to. 

Stop those hashtags, stop making fun of self harm. There are a million reasons why it's not funny. If you can't offer your help to those suffering from it, don't let your ignorance about this cause the ones suffering more pain and silence. Their lives are hard enough to have you bothering them. 

I didn't mean to offend anyone, I just felt the need of sharing my opinion on ths because it really offended me personally. 

Have a nice day everyone!