Friday, February 12, 2016
Somehow we end up thinking about society whenever we're going to do something.
"What will society think?" "Is this what I'm supposed to do/be?" "How does society see this?" are questions that we think about before making most of the decisions about ourselves.
One way or another, society ends up being the "thing" we never forget about. Society ends up being the dictator that holds us, that keeps us as prisoners.
They try to make us think that society isn't the dictator, with the lame excuse that they're not obliging us. Nonetheless, what happens if we don't obey society? Suddenly the world hates us, because we're different. If you're different, you're out. Not obliging society means that you'll probably be discriminated, hated, and, who knows what else?
Society dictates us how to be, and if you don't obey, well, face the music. What does this mean? We're being obliged indirectly.
Okay, this is what society, the world, tells us. This are the cards they give you to play with. Do you want to know what I think?
Society doesn't rule. This is what I think.
You don't have to obey society, you don't have to be as they tell you to be if you don't want to. You need to be as you want to, no as someone else wants. After all, the person who should matter the most to you is yourself, and you deserve to be happy. You have the right of being as you want to be, of being yourself.
They tell you to face the consequences, well, as long as you don't hurt anyone, there's nothing wrong with being who you are. If they don't like it, you deserve better people than that in your life. There will be bad consequences, I can't tell you otherwise. But, guess what? You can also fight, fight for your rights, for what you deserve.
There's a consequence they don't like to tell you about... being yourself is the first step to take if you want to be happy. Are you going to let society rule? Or are you going to let yourself rule?
It's your life. Society doesn't rule - you do.
Did you skip any meal today? Did you make yourself throw up today? If you did, or if you want to do it or basically do it whatever frequency, please, stay with me for a while.
It won't take long, I promise.
I don't know you, and you probably don't know me either, so it's the same for the both of us. For this reason, I don't know what's going on in your mind, your thoughts, your life and so on. I'm not going to talk to you about what I don't know.
Do you tell yourself "only until I reach x (x being a number of weight), then I'll stop"? I want to tell you something - that doesn't work. You think that you'll be happy with your own image when you reach a certain weight, so you do unhealthy things to reach that, thinking that it's the way to see yourself in the mirror and think "I like it", or maybe because you think that that way you'll be thin enough. That way you end up living in a vicious circle, because when you reach the weight you wanted to, you'll want to lose more weight.
I can't tell you to just stop and eat the meals you should, talk is cheap, but the reality is different. It's not that easy, I know. That doesn't mean that you can't do it - you can do it.
First of all, you need to realize that there's nothing wrong with your body, and, if you want to lose weight for whatever reason, let's set the record straight - do it healthily. What does that mean? Eat, you need to eat. You should eat five meals a day without eating less and skipping any of them, because they can be healthy, which is actually better for your health. You can do some sport (regularly but not as an obsession, no extremes).
Very important: your body isn't the problem, so, causing it that damage will not make anything better. Also, it can cause you many health problems in the future, or very soon.
You don't have to do to your body what you're doing. You don't deserve it, nor does it. You don't deserve to go to bed feeling hungry because you barely ate dinner, or you skipped it. You don't deserve to go through all this. You deserve to love yourself and live a healthy life.
However, as I said, talk is cheap. It's easy to tell you just not to do it, but you still feel guilty whenever you eat, and you still hate what you see when you look into the mirror. I cannot change that, and believe me, I wish I could. Nevertheless, I can give you some advice, hoping it can help.
- Be aware that society standards don't need to be followed by you, you don't have to be as the people you see in magazines or TV. Actually, usually being that way is unhealthy.
- Try to find parts of your body that you love and embrace them! Step by step try loving more and more parts of your body, even though it's hard, try to find parts you love.
- Reach out. I'd point this as the most important thing. If you can seek professional help, I recommend you doing that, it's a real help and there's nothing wrong about that. Nonetheless, whether you can't, you can search for help other way. If you have someone close to you who you can trust, you can open up to them and share your feelings with them. It can't help as much as a therapist of course, but it's something. Also you can search for self-help books or pages, they're an useful resource of help.
Besides all that, I always say this but I don't mind repeating myself. I'm also here to listen if you need it. You can contact me on Twitter, ask.fm, here on blogger, and in most social networks by just searching: "bandskeepalive".
Have a good night guys, love y'all! <3
Saturday, February 6, 2016
We all have a break sometimes. We have a break in high school in the middle of the morning, in jobs there's a break as well, we take a break when we're studying and we've been studying for so long, we take a break many times and for many different reasons, don't we?
Sometimes, when we take a break it's because we're lazy, but most of the times it's because we need it, we need a break.
Is it wrong to take a break? Definitely no. Don't you ever think that.
If you need a break, it's totally okay to take one. When, for whatever reason, we're tired, exhausted, the best thing to do is take a break. After we've taken that break, we'll probably feel more powerful and ready to win! It's exactly like when you've been working all day and then you go to sleep and sleep for like ten hours, what happens? When you wake up you're full of energy.
When I'm talking about taking a break, I talk about many kind of breaks. For example, it could be taking some time for yourself, like relaxing and chilling. I don't know, whatever it means to you to take a break, what matters is that when you finish your break you come back all out!