Friday, July 3, 2015
Nowadays, there's a "trend" of being better than the fellow. We want to have a better car, a better house, a better mobile phone... better achievements than the other person, whoever they are and whatever they're our achievements.
I'm going to start to explain this with a little example. Imagine you got a 90% in you Science test, and other classmate of yours got a 95%. Instead of being proud of yourself for having such a high mark, you're not going to realize that and you won't be proud of your own achievement because you're comparing yourself with the other person. And you won't be satisfied until you get a better mark than your classmate. However, when you reach that mark, you won't try to get a better one, because you've got what you wanted - being better than your fellow.
What I want to communicate you with this example is that, to me, comparing yourself to others isn't the best or right thing to do.
Comparing yourself to others will only fill you with hatred, envy and arrogance. As soon as you're better than a certain person you've decided to be better than - if you ever reach that goal, of course.
When it comes to progress, there's something else I do for myself, and I recommend you to try it because with me it has worked. Even though sometimes it's necessary to compare yourself to others in some ways so you can learn more things, and it's even more necessary to pay to other people's attention and critics (if they're constructive), there's something else which is better.
What I do instead is comparing me with myself. I compare my previous achievements and according to that I build my goal, what I want to reach. I only propose myself to get what I'm capable of getting.
I think that it's the best way of improving, because you see how much you've improved and you're realistic. You work harder and harder and you'll see real progress. I really believe that that's what progress is all about. It's about becoming a better person and improving - taking steps forward and move forward.