Saturday, June 27, 2015
We can stand so much, sometimes, we even stand more than we thought we could. Why? Maybe we think it's fair to stand it. Maybe we think that's what we're supposed to do. Maybe we think that it's not a big deal, that we're just overreacting. Maybe we just think that if we stand so much, when it comes to us, other person will stand so much. Maybe we just think we could do better, we could be better. You want the truth?
The truth is that, it's okay to stand some things. But, there has to be a moment when you realize you've had enough, that it's been enough and say: "enough". Are you going to let someone use you? Are you going to let them take you for granted? Are you going to let them say who you should be? Are you going to let them tell you what you're supposed to be?
Don't give me to wrong, it's important to listen to other people's advice and all that stuff. However, there's a difference between listening to someone's advice and letting someone control your life. It's your life to make it how you want it to be, it's your future, it's you. Are you going to give someone so much importance that they can control you?
The problem about standing so much is that it comes to a point when you think everything's okay, so you don't realize when you're being controlled by someone else. You don't realize when it's time to say enough. You don't realize when it's time to stop standing and let go.
Never forget your value, never let yourself tell you you're not good enough, and more important than that, never let someone control you.
You have to think of yourself first, then you can think of the world.
Monday, June 22, 2015
This post goes to the LGBT+ community. Since June is Pride Month, I felt like writing a post about it.
The LGBT+ community has been receiving a lot of hate from many people worldwide since it even existed, and it continues that way. Homosexual, bisexual, transgender... people have always received hate from other people who've considered being different from them is wrong. That's what I want to talk about, but this won't be a sermon for homophobic, transphobic, biphobic... people. That's not what this post is supposed to be - so it won't be like that.
What I want to tell you is to embrace who you are no matter what. Some people say it's exaggerated to embrace in a public way if you're different, but the thing is that if you get hate for who you are, the way to fight back is embracing who you are and showing you're proud of who you are.
Some people find it hard to accept who they truly are, whether they have a different sexual orientation than they're supposed to, or a different gender identity, or whatever makes you different than most of the people. I want to tell you that different doesn't mean wrong. I want to tell you that you deserve to be yourself without fear. It hurts to hide who you truly are or who you truly love, and that's not fair for you - whatever is holding you back from being yourself is what's wrong.
You're heterosexual? Cool. You're homosexual? Cool. You're bisexual? Cool. You're pansexual? Cool. You're cisgender? Cool. You're transgender? Cool. You're gender fluid? Cool. None of that defines you as a person.
It's said that there's barely LGBT+ phobia nowadays, but I know that isn't true. If that was true, there wouldn't be "closets". There wouldn't be people hiding themselves - everyone would feel safe to share their sexual orientation or gender identity, but that doesn't happen.
People who judge you because of that are the people you don't deserve having in your life. You deserve better people who accept you as you are, that's true. Nevertheless, I want to tell you that the most important thing is that you accept yourself as you are.
I know what it's like not to accept who you truly are because of fear, because you don't want to be different, you don't want to be hated. I can assure you I know what it's like. However, I can also tell you that once you accept yourself, everything becomes a little better. Your own acceptance is what you need the most.