Thursday, September 10, 2015
As you probably know, today it's the suicide prevention day. And I've got many things to say about this topic so there we go.
There's not a fantastic magical book in how to stop suicide, in how to help someone who wants to end their own life. I can assure you that. And, that sucks. Each person is different and so is the way to help them. Let me tell you something - you cannot save the world, even if you wanted to.
What I mean with that is that, yeah, you can't save everyone, but you can try to help as much people as you can. When we talk about stopping someone's suicide we all just imagine someone standing in a bridge about to jump or something like that, but, that's not everything. There are situations that lead to that and we can give a hand to someone before that happens.
To know if someone's hurting to the point they want to end their lives is almost impossible, it's not something you just tell when you look at someone. However, making someone smile doesn't cost that much, does it? Helping people can be as easy as a compliment, or telling someone that you're there for them whenever they need it, or tell them you're willing to listen. Sometimes, all that someone needs is to talk to someone.
That's just my advice though.
Also, if you're hurting, don't be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help doesn't make you a coward or that you're weak - actually it takes a lot of courage to ask for it. I promise you that there are people out there who are willing to listen, who want to help you, whether they're close to you or even strangers. The point is that out there there's a lot of people who care about you, even though you probably haven't realized.
No matter how bad it gets, there's always hope. If you can't see it, let someone show you the way, because there is a way. Stay strong, we care about you, you're loved.
I've said it a million times, but I'll say it again. Even though I'm not a therapist, I'm always willing to listen, so, if you want to talk and can't find anyone or whatever, you can contact me on twitter, tumblr, instagram, ask.fm...
Besides that, I'm posting below the links to online resources for help or hotlines:
The other day I was just thinking about life, and something came to mind - poker. I don't play poker much, but I've played several times and I really like it. Okay, let's think about poker. Someone shuffles the cards, distributes cards to all the players, and they let the game begin.
You don't get to choose what cards you get, it's all random. You can have good luck or bad luck in the first deck of cards you get, but that isn't what matters most.
What matters the most is what you decide to do with the deck of cards you get in the first round, and what you keep getting. What makes you win or lose a game are your choices. Sometimes you'll decide not to risk anything and it'll be the good move. Other times, you'll risk everything at one card, not knowing if you'll win or not. Maybe you win, maybe you lose. However, you have to make some sacrifices if you want to win.
It's your choice how you decide to play.
With experience, you'll get better. And, if you're smart enough, you'll realize that it all isn't about luck. Yeah, luck has a lot of might here, but there are people with very good luck who lose, and people with very bad luck that win. What do you say about that?
Life's just like a game of cards. You can't choose what cards you get, but you do have the will to decide what you'll do with them. Your choices are what will make you success of fail in the end.
Saturday, September 5, 2015
September's already here.
Yeah, we all know what that means - school has already come back (for some) or is about to come.
I'm sorry, I know most of teens hate to talk about this topic, but I'm going to talk about it. I hate to talk about it too, don't worry. However, I feel like there are some things I need to mention about it, you know, in order to give y'all some advice!
School, or high school, or college... whatever you call it. Okay, let's not think about the studying and grades stuff for a moment, because that's not what I want to focus on. I want to focus on how to deal with school.
A lot of people might find this post useless, the might probably not need this. Nevertheless, other might need it.
School can be hard to deal with, and a lot of kids/teens are even afraid of going to school. Whether it's because someone's giving you a hard time or you feel like you're going to be judged, there can be many reasons why someone's afraid of going to school. It's a shame that it's even common sometimes, because nobody should ever feel afraid of going to school. Actually, if you're feeling afraid of going to school, I wanted to tell you that, I feel you. I'm not going to talk about myself here, however, I wanted you to know that I understand what you're feeling.
The best thing you can do is try and lose that fear.
Yeah, I know that it's pretty easy to just say it, that it's harder to do it. Fear is what's stopping you from many things, and that's what you need to get rid of. I'm not saying your fear is irrational, I'm saying that fear's stopping you from more things than you know. And it's in your hands to fight that fear. Forget about what they'll say.
I cannot go and tell you people are going to judge you, because I'm no liar, and I want to be honest. So, yes, people will probably judge you. People always judge, always.
I remember that once I read a quote written by a guy called Aitor Alvarez, which said:
"Survival adice - do it, you're going to get critiziced anyway"
And, it's true.
What I want to say with this is that, just be yourself. Be yourself and don't give a damn what they say or what they think. Stay true to yourself and don't let fear stop you from anything.
Your attitude toward certain situations can really make the difference, and it's more than you think.
So, when you wake up in the morning to go to school, try to concienciate yourself that what others think doesn't matter. You're going to do good. Just trust in yourself and aspire to do great things in your life. Because, you can do it.
And, some people messing up with you or whatever can't be the reason that stops you from that. Do your thing and remember - you won't see them again when you get out of school probably, so, why letting their (negative) opinions matter?