The future.

Some people don't like to talk about their future. It's a topic they just don't like, they change the subject when someone brings it up. It's like they're scared of it or something. Well, I get it and respect it. Sometimes, the future can seem really scary. I think that most of the times, it does look scary. Future can mean uncertainty if you think about it deeply, because whatever your plans, you'll never know what tomorrow will bring to you, how things will be in the future, and how you'll react to occurrences in the future. 

However, I prefer to think about other way.

Sometimes, when I'm lying in bed at night and thinking, I start "making" plans for my future. I start imagining the future that I wish, in which some things that I find amazing do happen. Only thinking of that draws a smile on my face, and, guess what? That motivates me. It motivates me to make my dreams true. The simple thought of me in college studying what I want and living my life the way I've always wanted to live it is one of the brightest flames in my heart. 

I have no clue about the future. Nevertheless, having a goal to achieve makes me think of the future as something that could be awesome if I fight for it, if I put effort to it. Thinking of the future even makes me happy very often since it's what I fight for every day. 

I really think that if we think of the future as the time when we could be able to make our dreams true, or reach our goals, people wouldn't try to avoid it so much. There are people who like to talk about their goals, and what they plan to do - I'm one of those people. 

The future can be whatever it be. But, we can dream and fight for something we want, can't we? It's in your hands. 

Anons.

This is the Internet, and here, each person decides whether they want to show their true identity or to remain as an anon. 

Personally, I'm a person who has remained as an anon for about a year maybe in my twitter account. I wouldn't show pictures of me, and stuff like that. It was my personal decision because I didn't want people to know who I was. It's not like I had anything to hide or whatever, it was just my decision. I found it more comfortable to give advice to people and try to help them without sharing my identity. 

And I am aware that many people prefer that, and, of course I respect it. It's totally understandable and there's nothing wrong with that choice, as long as you don't lie about who you are either, of course. 

However, the point here is not about that. I wanted to give a message to everyone. 

If you want to remain as an anon, cool. But, can you do me a favor? Well, it's not a favor only to me, I think it's more like a favor to a lot of people. If you're going to spread hate, why don't you think it through and turn it all around? How? Instead of hate, you could spread some love. Someone out there might need it, and, guess what? You'll feel better with yourself, and maybe, you realize that love will always be better than hate. 

Want to try? 

Our dark side.

Today, I stopped to think about the dark sides of people. Everyone has a dark side, am I right? 

It's like the part of us that we try and hide from the whole world, the part of us we wish we could forget and bury in the ground. But, that part is still there, inside of you, and you can't let go of it. It remains there. 

I remember a quote by J.K. Rowling, writter of the Harry Potter saga in which a character said something pretty wise, and about this topic. This was the quote: 

"Besides, the world isn't split into good people and Death Eaters. We've all got both light and dark inside us. What matters it the part we choose to act on. That's who we really are."

The message is not only clear, but true. We all have a dark side, darkness inside of us. And we have a bright side (let's call it that way), light inside of us. The darkness inside of you can only define you if you let it become who you are. As J.K. Rowling said, what matters is the part we choose to act on - using different words, what matters is the part that becomes relevant, the one that "wins". 

At the end of the day, we all know which our dark side is, and it's up to us decide whether we want that part to become us or not. After all, our choices are what define us. 

We can't choose not to have a dark side, because everyone has one and you can't help that. Nobody's perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. But you can choose what part of you wins, and what part will end up to define you as a person. 

The darkness always has some light, and the light always has some darkness. I guess that's a part of being human. Just, remember that. 

I hope y'all are having a good Saturday/Sunday ^-^

This is your life to live.

You have this life, and you only have one. It's your own choice whatever you decide to do with it, and, even though people can influence you, after all, it's your life and choices. Any person can come to you and tell you who you should be, what you're supposed to do or be, they can tell you many things: good and bad ones. They can whether have an impact in you or not to have it at all. If it's a positive one, amazing. If it's a negative one, try to learn something out of it. 

What I'm trying to say is that you're the owner of your life, no matter what.

I've been told by many people who I'm supposed to be, what I should do and which path I should follow for the rest of my life. I only have two words as an answer: fuck that. I'm sorry if that sounds rude, it's not my intention. Nevertheless, I want to make my message really clear. I've been given many good advice, thankfully, and I "studied" them carefully, I paid attention and followed some of those which I felt like I should follow. It was my decision though. I made the decision. But I've also been given bad advice, which I used to follow and sometimes follow by mistake. As the human I am, I make mistakes. 

Months from now, maybe, I would have done what I'm supposed to, but, I've changed as a person. I've made up a list in my mind of my preferences, of what I truly want in life. And that's the path I'm going to follow, no matter how hard it can become, I don't mind.

I sat down and realized I couldn't keep just thinking of other people before myself, specially when it was about my future, my own life. If I do what others want me to do, will I be happy? No. I need to do whatever makes me happy, because it's my life. 

I'm not saying all this just to talk about my life, actually, I don't like that. I just want you to see that that's what you should do. You need to think what you really want to do, who you want to be, without thinking if other people will like it or not, or if they'll approve it. That's not how things should be. 

This is your life to live. As long as you're respectulf to others and to yourself, what else matters? 

You shouldn't let the world tell you who you have to be, you know, you should embrace who you are and realize what's best for you. What do you prefer, to live as yourself, or to live as someone else? It's your choice.