Over thinking.

Over thinking is something that we all do sometimes. We over think different stuff, and for different reasons, but we all over think some times... or more times. 

Thinking is okay. Thinking is a part of being human, something natural and that we never have to stop doing. If we don't think, we'll become empty, and we'll be like robots, and that's horrible.

But over thinking is way different. Over thinking can be very harmful if you keep on over thinking without even stopping. If you keep thinking of something that happened in the past, you won't be able to move forward. If you keep thinking of something bad that happened, you'll keep feeling bad about it, and the pain of that will paralyze you. 

I don't like talking about myself much, but, I can tell you first hand that over thinking you won't get anything good, and you'll get only bad things. I over think a lot and I wish I had never over thought. It might sound very extreme, but it's true. The only things I got from over thinking are being insecure about myself, so much self hate, crying myself to sleep and so much pain. I didn't get anything good from that. Well, I got to write some cool stuff that people seem to like, but I got way more bad things than good ones. Because, I even got more bad things than the ones I mentioned, and way worse ones. 

So, please, read something, write something, draw something, go listen to some music, watch some funny videos or do whatever you can to avoid over thinking, because I can assure you it's not good. 

If you over think much, I just want you to know that you're not the only one and that I understand you. Over thinking sucks, I know, but you're not alone. I'm here you can count on me and I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Try to distract yourself from that, please. 

Love you all! 

Change.

We all are scared of change. Some people are more scared of change, and some people are less scared of change, but we all are scared in our own ways. Why are we scared of change? 

Change is scary, because changing means that something will be different, it won't be the same. We are usually scared of whatever is different than it is now. The truth is that, the world changes, life changes, and we have to change with it too. 

We can't just see everything changing and stay still and wait everything will be the same again. Because, sometimes things change and they won't ever be the same. That's not neccessary bad though, but it's scary. Anyway, stay still is worse than keep moving. You gotta keep moving, even if you don't know where what you want to find is: as long as you know what you want, never stop moving and searching, but never stay still. 

Fear can and paralyzes us, but we have to beat that fear of change. We can't let that fear blind us, because that's why a lot of us find it so hard to go on, to go ahead, because fear paralyzes us. But, once we beat that fear, everything will be better. We'll feel free, and we'll be able to achieve what we're looking for, what we want to do in life. If we stay still, we will never be able to get that. And, you have to fight for whatever is worth it. 

Don't be afraid of change. If a change is on its way, don't deny it, accept it. The sooner you accept it, the faster you'll get used to it. And the faster you'll move on. Never let that fear of change stop you from anything, you're better and stronger than any fear. 

Never forget that. 

Words.

People don't usually realize of the true power of words. After all, words are only letters put together to have a meaning. The problem is not only that meaning, it is also the meaning it has to the person you say the word. 

We say words without even thinking of the damage they can cause. We say words without even thinking the good things they can cause. We don't usually think before saying words. And, that's normal, because, if we over thought every single word we said, we would lose our minds. Anyway, sometimes, we should think twice before we speak. Why? Because there are things that should never be said. 

I've heard people say that telling someone to kill themselves isn't a big deal. Well, it depends. It depends of the person you tell that. Do you know what I really cannot understand? I don't understand when, here on the internet, when someone sees someone saying they've tried to kill themselves or they are suicidal, they tell that person to kill themselves. 

Now, you'll think: "but they can be lying". Of course, that's a possibility. There's a lot of people who lie and fake on the internet. But, there's also people who tell the truth. You'll never know if that person is telling the truth or not. Then why telling them to kill themselves? If you don't believe them, it's completely okay, just ignore them. Problem solved. If they want to kill themselves and you tell them to do so, they'll think that it is right to kill themselves. They'll think that it's okay if they do it. They'll think that nobody would miss them, that everyone would be better off without them. And that's not true at all. That's a lie. So, please, don't tell anyone to kill themselves, even if it's joking, because you'll never know who's struggling. 

That was an extreme case, but, any other words can hurt. 

What about good words? They can affect people too, but positively. Those are better ones. I have the belief that we should tell people how much we care about them. Sometimes, when I'm with my friends and tell them all that I really care about them and if they need anything they can always count on me, they get stranged. But, I like to say that. Because, if one day they're feeling horrible, I want them to remember that. Whenever I feel down, I try to remember things like that said to me by certain people, and it helps, so I just try to to the same, in case they ever need it. Words like that can keep someone alive, so I think you should do it. It's only my advice.

Some people also use the anonymity of the internet to insult others. Why not use it to help others, to tell them good things? I personally prefer to use it to try to help people. 

Love you all, stay strong <3

Fate.

Do you believe in fate? Do you believe that there's a destiny written that we cannot change? Do you believe that? 

I don't. 

Well, everyone can believe whatever they want to believe, but I'll tell you why I don't believe in fate. Actually it's not like an empathic "no". But, I believe that you can be who you want to be, do whatever you want to do. I believe that you're the owner of your fate, of your destiny. 

For me, if there's a destiny written, life makes no sense. If what I'm supposed to do or be has been already decided, please someone tell me and I won't make any effort. But, since I don't believe it, I will make it. Because that's what life is about, about making your dreams true, whatever they are, and, the only one who can decide which your fate is, it's you. If you believe that your fate has been written, you won't be able to create your own fate. And, that sucks. 

You are what you love, you are what you do. You are made of your own decisions, not other peoples'. 

Although, I believe that everything happens for a reason, but I wouldn't consider that related to fate. We have to learn, and some things happen to teach us something. They can change you for good or for bad, but it's your choice if whatever happens to you in life makes you a better person, or a worse one. 

It's better to learn and become who you really want to be, not what people want you to be. It's your life, not theirs. 

Lies.

There are many kinds of lies, and of liars. We all lie sometimes. But not everyone lies the same way. Not everyone hurts the same people when they lie. 

Some people lie, and hurt other people. They make you believe things that aren't true, and when you find out the truth... it hurts you so much. Those lies usually give you a vision of certain people that isn't true. You think people are some way, but they're not. 

But not everyone lies that way. 

Some people lie, and only hurt themselves with their lies. I'm saying "some people", but I should say that a lot of people lie this way I'm talking about now. Have you ever said "I'm fine" when you weren't? You weren't fine, but you didn't want anyone to worry about you. You didn't want to annoy anyone with your problems. You thought that they had better things to do than listen to your problems. You thought that they wouldn't even care. So, then, why even bother? 

You tried so hard not to hurt anyone, because that's the last thing you want, to hurt other people. But, what happened? You ended up hurting who should be the most important person for you: yourself. 

We all try to protect the people we care about, and the people we love. But, telling someone about our problems isn't the right thing to do. Because, your problems, no matter how big or small they are, they'll become bigger. And, you don't want that, do you? 

We aren't getting anything good from lying to people. Sometimes it's totally okay to lie, but, opening up, and telling the truth solves a lot of problems. 

I hope you all have a good weekend!

Perfection.

Most of us try too hard to be perfect. We want to be perfect, no matter what it costs. Why? 

Why do we try to be perfect? That's a really good question. Today, in Religion's class, we were talking about life and that stuff, and I asked the teacher about perfection and how it ends up destroying some of us because we try to be perfect, and since we fail, we feel like our life is not worth living. She told me that the problem is that we have the wrong concept about perfection.

She told me that we don't have to be perfect in everything, no. We don't have to be the best in everything. What we have to do is try our best and do our best, in the things we love. 

If you want to be a painter, cool, but paint the best way you can, don't slow down. The point isn't about what you do in your life, the point is that you have to do the best you can, but you don't have to be the best. Don't compare to others, compare you to yourself. Don't stress yourself if you feel like you don't do things as good as you'd like to, maybe you still haven't found what you're good at, but you'll find it! There's something you're good at, and I'm sure of that. If you compare yourself to others, all you'll get is the feeling of failure, but if you compare yourself to yourself, you'll get progress.

I'm going to give you an example, and I hope it helps you: I'm a writer; an unknown one without an editorial to publish my books. I write because that's what I love doing. I'm 16 and that's what I love doing, my dream is to be able to publish a book one day. I've written some books, and I never compare my books to other writers' books. I compare my books to my other books, that's how I see if I progressed, if the new book is better to the old ones. And that way, you feel better about what you do, and also you become better and that. 

That's only my advice mixed with what my teacher answered to me today in class. But I think you should stop and think about that. 

Keep being amazing, you all are amazing the way you are.

Mondays.

Do you hate Mondays? I really feel like everyone out there hates Mondays. I've never heard someone say such thing as: "I love Mondays". But, why do we hate Mondays? 

It seems like a really stupid question, I know. We hate Mondays because that means that the weekend is over and we have to go back to work, school or whatever. 

I think that we should try to see Mondays differently though. That it is Monday means that a new week is starting. That means you survived another week in your life. That also means that even though there were difficulties in that week, you made it through. The week before you've laughed, you've smiled, maybe cried. The week before you've probably seen the sun, and, since winter is almost here, you might have seen the rain or the snow. The week before you might have seen a person you adore, and a person you hate too. The week before you might have read an awesome book, or watched a cool film. The week before you might have discovered a new band and you love them so much. The week before you've probably hugged someone, or maybe you've kissed someone. The week before you've made mistakes, and you've done things right. 

Every week is full of good things and bad ones. But, hey, a new week starting means experiencing a lot of things. It's not a bad thing that it is Monday, because, this week, you'll smile, you'll laugh, you'll see someone you like seeing, you'll listen to your favorite song, you'll see the sun, or the rain, or snow, you might meet someone new, you might have the best day of your life. You'll make mistakes, and you'll learn from them. You might discover a nice book, or watch a cool film. You'll hug someone, and you might kiss someone. 

After all, a new week starting, is something totally amazing. You should start to focus on the good things instead of focusing on the bad ones. 

Hope you all have a nice week!