New Year's Resolutions

2016 is almost over, or basically we could just say it is over.

And, for this reason, most people are writting down, or sharing their New Year's Resolutions. I think there's something really positive about doing that. Having goals, things you want to do in life, it's something beautiful.

It's a way of saying what you look forward to doing, and what you're going to fight for. 

If you fight for that, and when the year finishes, you realise that you did a good job and got to make it true - that's priceless.

That's what happened to me, I made a wish at the end of 2015 - to be capable to be as I am, and that the world could see me as I saw myself. I fought for that, and today, 31st of December of 2016, I can say my dream came true. That's priceless, as I said. 

So do it, write down, or just say to yourself what you want to achieve. But don't just write it and put it down. Fight every single day of the year so your goals, your dreams, do come true. 

Cheers for the dreams that do come true, cheers for the fighters. 

Happy new year for everyone, keep fighting for what you want the most, 'cause you can do it. Love y'all <3

Eating Disorders Awareness Day

Today, 30th of November, it's Eating Disorders' Awareness Day.

I'm going to start talking about statistics. You know why? When we see the numbers, it's when we realize how dangerous or important something is.

• At least 30 million people of all ages and genders suffer from an ED (eating disorder) in the U.S.
• Every 62 minutes, at least one person dies as a direct result from an ED.
• Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness.
• 13% of women over 50 engage in ED behaviors
• In a large national study of college students, 3.5% sexual minority women and 2.3% of sexual minority men reported having an ED.
• 16% of transgender college students reported having an ED.
• In a study following active duty military personnel over time, 5.5% of women and 4% of men had an ED at the beginning of the study, and within just a few years of continued service - 3.3% more women and 2.6% more men developed an ED.
• ED affect all races and ethnic groups. 
• Genetics, environmental factors and personality traits all combine to create risk for an ED.

All this information is from ANAD (National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Asociated Disorders, Inc. 

What does this all mean? It means that ED's are more common than we think, and more dangerous than we can even imagine. 

ED's are not only being extremely underweight and binging. It's not only about the food. It's much more than that, and there are many types and symptoms.

Is a person close to you suffering from an ED/you suspect they're suffering from an ED? You don't know what to do to help them? 

Never blame them, never threaten them, never blame yourself. Learn about it, so that you know how you can help them. Encourage them to get help, let them know they're not alone. 

Are you suffering from an ED/Do you think you might be suffering from an ED? You don't know what to do? 

There are many resources, of many different kinds. The best option is to seek for a psychologist, but if you can't for whatever reason, you can call a helpline, search for support groups online, and there are also some email lines to receive support via email. 

Here you can find some help resources: 

http://www.anad.org/get-help/

http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/recovery

https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/recovery

You can get through this, you're not alone.  

What not to do if you're being bullied.

Are your classmates making fun of you? Do they tease you? Do they call you names? Do you find yourself marginalized? Do they threaten others so they don't get along with you?

If you're being bullied, these are the things you definitely shouldn't do: 

- Blame yourself. This one's easy to say, but it's not that easy to do so when it's you who's going through this. However, none of this is your fault, you're not the one to blame. Don't let blame blind you. 

- Stay silent. Even though it may seems as if you speak up things will get worse, that's false. You shouldn't be keeping all this to yourself - talking to someone who cares and understands will definitely help. And, if it's with a person who can help you stop the bullying -a teacher, a family member, the school counselor...- it's even better.

- Repeat their actions. The "if you hit me, I'll hit you" way of thinking doesn't solve anything. Your response to their bulling cannot be more bullying. That chain reaction has really bad consequences - for you, and for others.

- Don't make any hurried decision. Bullying can be such a hard thing to deal with, nevertheless, things can and will get better. You might feel like there's no escape, but that isn't true. Those classmates, when highschool's over, won't ever matter again. Don't let them win.

In case you're being bullied, there are many resources you can find online as well. Below I'm posting some, but there are plenty of them more if those aren't what you're looking for. You're not alone.

Stop Bullying

National Centre Against Bullying

Kids Help Phone

National Bullying Helpline

What to do and what not to do if...

Today I was just thinking about what I could do to take back to life (let's call it that way, I couldn't find a better expression) this blog, and an idea came to mind.

I'm going to create a section which is going to be called "what to do if..." and another one called "what not to do if...". What's this going to be about? Basically, I'm going to give advice about what to do and not to do if you're going through certain situations.

For this, I need your help. Even though I have some ideas in mind, I'd love it if you said to me what topics you'd like me to talk about in this new section.

Where can you tell me that?

You can tweet me or write me a Direct Message here

You can send me a question in AskFm telling me that here

You can message me via Tumblr  here.

And also you can write a comment below, in this post, saying so!

Thanks for your cooperation guys x

Try it again.

I don't know how education works where you guys live, so I talk referring to what I know only. 

Here, if you don't pass your finals in June, you have a chance to try again in September. If you don't pass those exams, you have to be in the same school year again. There are some exceptions, but that's basically it.

This post goes to everyone who hasn't passed and has to repeat the school year. Or to everyone who wanted to go to study somewhere and they couldn't for whatever reason. Or basically to everyone who wanted to do/become a certain thing... and they couldn't. 

Don't stop the fight, keep it up. 

You didn't get it this time? Try it again, try until you get it, It isn't easy, yes, I know. But, you can't let this bring you down, you can't let this be bigger than you. 

If you fall, you get up again. And that's what you're going to do right now, you're going to get back up and try as much as it's necessary to get what you wanted. No matter how worthless you feel, no matter if you feel like a failure. 

In this life, you're going to fall down so many times, 

and you're gonna need to get back up each one of them.

This is how it is, whether you want it or not.

Vacations are (almost) over.

Today it's the 29th August (at least where I live), which means that really soon a lot of you might start high school, university back. You might be a fan of that idea or you might not be.

Whichever your case, whatever your situation, there's something clear - we gotta make the most of this, right?

Highschool puts a lot of pressure upon your shoulders, that's a fact.

Sometimes you might feel like you don't feet it. Sometimes you might feel like you can't do anything right, and that it's so difficult to pass/get good grades. Sometimes everything might be a little overwhelming.

Don't worry, don't panic.

Do you know which is the key not to break down? Knowing what to do when things get harder, knowing who to turn to.

Whether it's your family, your friends, maybe some teacher you trust, the school counselor... when things at school get more difficult (this doesn't necessary need to happen, but if it does) you have to get some support, some help.

The key is to know who to turn to in case you need it - and ask them for help if you need it.

Good luck, you'll do great!

How to deal with anger.

You feel angry, whether it's for no reason or for some reason. You feel angry and don't know what to do about it. There are actually things that you can do to release that anger in a positive way, or to reduce it.

- Sport can be your ally many times. Doing physical exercise releases endorphines, and that helps you feel calmer and much better. Even if there's not a sport you like, you can go for a walk, go running... You can release your anger in a positive way by doing that.

- Also, you can go to a place apart from everyone and just scream. Release your anger by screaming, shoting as if there was no tomorrow. But, if you want to do that, do it apart from everybody if you don't want to possibly get into trouble.

- You can write down what you feel, what makes you feel angry, writing it down can be a way of letting all those negative feelings, all that anger, out.

- Music might help as well. Find the kind of music that calms you down, and listen to it for a while. It doesn't have to be quiet necessarily, just find what fits you better.

You can't let anger take over you, you need to beat it. If you have any other tips or things you do to do when you feel angry, as long as they're healthy and don't hurt anyone (yourself included), you can also do them. Anger can't win - you do.