Wednesday, March 25, 2015

"#Cut4Zayn"

Hello there everyone! I wasn't supposed to write a post today, because I didn't really know what to write it about. But, I was scrolling down twitter and I saw something that really pissed me off. I couldn't help but write about it. 

Some people would say that it's not a big deal and it's only a few people, but I don't care. It is a big deal to me, and since I'm in my right of sharing my thoughts as long as I respect people, I'll take it. 

When I came to twitter today, I saw some tweets with the hashtag "cut4zayn". This isn't the first time that there's a hashtag like that one - last time it was "cutforbieber", wasn't it? 

I'm not going to show hate towards those people, I'm against hate. You know the problem here? You're making fun of something which is definitely not funny at all. Self harm is a serious issue which, even though it's not a suicidal action in most people who do it, can lead to suicide. Besides all the physical harm it can cause to a person; behind self harm there's a lot of emotional pain. Is it funny? 

I don't know about those people who make fun of it, but let me tell you something: if you want to have a laugh, type on youtube 'comedians' or something like that, and you'll probably laugh. You don't need to do that, to make fun of something which isn't funny at all. 

Do you know that posting photos of fresh cuts can trigger people who're dealing with that issue? It can and it does.

On the other hand, please, imagine for a second. I don't even know what's happening, but I've read that you're doing it because Zayn Malik left One Direction. You're his fan, aren't you? Please, use empathy. How would it make you feel like if you had fans and they harmed themselves because of a personal decision you made? Exactly. 

Just, stop it, please. Hashtags like that one are the reason why people don't take issues like self harm seriously. 

Writing this, I searched the hashtag again, and do you know what I read? 

"The faster you cut your wrists, the faster Zayn comes back" 

What's wrong with you? Do you realize you're triggering other people? I know that the people who've harmed themselves for that reason are only a few, but stop spreading the word!

If you're sad about it, you can write that you're upset about it, but you don't need to do this. You're better than doing that to yourself, you don't deserve it. 

Cutting yourself because your idol left his band wont' solve anything. It'll only make you suffer more, and self harm is an issue that you don't want - I can assure you that. I'm dead serious. 

If you're having self harm issues, you should seek help. If you can't have face-to-face help at the moment, I'm leaving this link for you: https://self-injury.net/resources/hotlines. And, as I've said before, I can try to help you if you want to. 

Stop those hashtags, stop making fun of self harm. There are a million reasons why it's not funny. If you can't offer your help to those suffering from it, don't let your ignorance about this cause the ones suffering more pain and silence. Their lives are hard enough to have you bothering them. 

I didn't mean to offend anyone, I just felt the need of sharing my opinion on ths because it really offended me personally. 

Have a nice day everyone!

Monday, March 16, 2015

What you're doing here.

I don't quite know what I'm doing here. For that reason, I don't know what you specifically are doing here. 

I don't want to lie you. I don't even know who you, the one reading this in this very moment, are. I don't know anything about you. I don't know if you know who I am. You probably don't have any clue of who I am. You probably don't even know how I look like. You could probably see me anywhere and don't know who I am. I like that. 

Or maybe you do know who I am. There's a chance you know me in real life, and, when you've seen my name in my profile, you've recognised who I am. There's a chance that you are a person close to me, or that you're a person who knows me in real life, but we're not very close. I don't know, there's a possibility. I like that too, even though I prefer the role of an anon.  

I don't care if you know who I am or not. 

However, even though I'm writing here a bunch of words which sometimes don't even make sense, there's something I want. I don't want to lie you. Whoever you are, I don't want to lie you. I want to be straight up with honesty. That's what I've been trying to do since I started the first one of my blogs, and I started my twitter account as well. I've been trying to be honest. Even though I started coming as an anon, I've been trying to be honest. 

That feels kind of weird to me, because, in real life, there are many times in which I'm not honest. There are many times in which no words I said were true. What's messed up about that is that, I hurt others with that when they found out the truth, but mostly I hurt myself. You know, you can say you're fine when you're totally not. Even though someone finds out you were far from okay, the person who hurts the most is you. 

But, here, to me, it's different. Maybe is that I'm writing behind a screen, or that words were always what I used to express my own feelings. Here I don't usually lie. I express my feelings right how they are. I don't even feel afraid of sharing them. I feel safe here. I don't know if to you it makes sense, but to me, it does. 

That's why I'm saying that. I don't know what I'm doing here, so, I can't tell you I know what you're doing here, because I really don't. Do you know what I really know? I know that there's a reason why you're here, and lots of reasons for you to keep being here. 

The answer to the question "What am I doing here?", you can only find it. I can't answer that question for you, neither can your friends, family... or whoever you ask. The answer is inside you, you are the only one who can know what you're doing here. Don't freak out if it takes a long while to find the answer - the great things in life take time. 

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Nothing is easy?

People use to say that nothing is easy. 


Are they right? I don't think so. I think something different. I believe that there are a lot of things in life which are easy. Things that don't take any effort from us, and things that aren't what we consider "difficult". 

However, what I think is this: I believe that nothing which is worth it is easy. With that, I mean that there are easy things, and a lot. But, whenever there is something you want to accomplish, something you want to get, and you find it hard, you feel like you can't get it because of the difficulty, that's when you know it's going to be worth it. 

The hardest things in life, are the most worth fighting for. 

There are lots of things which are worth fighting for, however, the things that cost the most, are worth the most.

That means that the fight you've got into in order to accomplish your dream is worth it. People will tell you you can't do it, and even you'll tell yourself you can't do it some times. That shows how worthy your fight is. Because, the more it costs, the more you'll win once you get what you've been fighting for. 

Never give up on your dreams.